I just finished a session with my coach. I often share my challenges with her, things that bother me and stuff I need to work on. We come up with lists, solutions and use different perspectives to look at things that bother me.
Today’s coaching session was different.
Today I felt fulfilled as I realized that a lot of things have been aligning for me lately. I didn’t want to complain or work on things. I simply wanted to express gratitude.
Our session was about noticing abundance and excitement about what the future may bring. I wasn’t downplaying what was working or looking for what may not work in the future. I was in the now, focusing on greatness.
It’s as if we’re in a contest for dissatisfaction, and admitting that life is great would disqualify us.
A few months ago I visited my doctor, who said “you seem healthy.” I felt like I couldn’t just agree with that, couldn’t just admit I was healthy. Was it conditioning that was pulling me, trying to engulf me in the sea of dissatisfaction? Instead of thinking about the times there was something wrong with me, why couldn’t I just admit that I was healthy?
Why can’t we simply admit: “Yes, my life is great?”
Often, even if we tried to say it, we’d be tempted to add “now,” which would mean “Yes, my life is great now but you never know so I’d better not get too excited.” Why? Why are we tempted to sprinkle dissatisfaction on everything we do? We compare, carefully choosing our comparison benchmarks so that they prove our inadequacy. Once we reach or surpass these benchmarks, we refocus on new targets, which feed our hunger for dissatisfaction.
It’s as if we’re in a contest for dissatisfaction, and admitting that life is great would disqualify us. Why do participate in this race? It often seems that misery brings more attention and builds stronger connections than success. So we decide to fish out the misery, amplify it and share it everywhere. Winning the contest of dissatisfaction gets us attention and boosts our egos.
What if we tried, just for a day, admitting that life is great, period? What can be possible for us when we project this confident attitude, joyfully expressing abundance? Let’s step back, evaluate, refocus and amplify greatness.
At first you may feel misunderstood and your unconventional attitude may seem odd or arrogant. It may seem that misery was magnetic and satisfaction is not.
Embrace being different. Design your life on your own terms.
Say it: “My life is great!”
